Many of my friends or acquaintances ask me if I think that gay marriage not being legal is something that I fight for or get upset about and I say no. First of all, I don't want to say I don't believe in marriage because part of me does but a bigger part of me doesn't care. I guess the party/ceremony/decoration/killer-slim-cut-fitted black suit excites me more than actual marriage--so I guess I care more about the symbolic part of it than the legal side.
Why? When I think about marriage and signing a paper that "sentences" you to be with one person until "death" do you apart or a hotter, younger co-worker comes along your/his way doesn't make much sense. It's like saying "By signing this, you agree to behave, not be monogamous, not check out the man in front of you at the market, respect your husband even if he's being a prick, commit to this eternal relationship, and share everything for the rest of your life." Aren't you supposed to be doing all these things if you are in a relationship? I believe that marriage itself adds more tension to a relationship because you don't want to end up divorced due to the fact that ever since you were a kid you were taught to think that a divorce is this messy, painful, dramatic situation and you NEED to be with whomever you getting married with for the rest of your life.
I think that if I ever loved someone so much it wouldn't make much of a difference to have a paper signed that says you officially belong that person because you will love them forever until life is a bitch and takes away your youth. Are we talking money wise? Then you don't really love that person so much if you just want to get get 50% of what that person has.
BUT I do believe that us, the gays of this country should have the same rights, to get married and whatnot because being gay is not a choice, because if it was most of us wouldn't be gay. WHY? Because being gay can be a hard thing to be. So therefore, I believe that gays should get married, not because of our sexual orientations, but because everyone should have the same rights.
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