Goals Lead To Self-Failure

Many of us set ourselves goals. I do, you do, we all do, correct? And most of us set ourselves timed goals, meaning that we want to reach our goal in a period of time. For example, when I was about 5 or so I watched a movie where this guy, well boy was 13 years old and the movie ended on him being kissed by the girl he liked. I unconsciously set myself a goal of being kissed by age 13 because I considered being 13 years old the highest and coolest point of the Teen era. When I reached 13, I was going through one of the worst and most "suicidal" phases of my life so I felt like I failed in life because I didn't reach my "goal" of being kissed--okay I wasn't very bummed out about not being kissed because I was too busy on my self-esteem.

Same thing happened when I was 14 or 15. I promised myself that I was going to have a tight, firm, toned body by the age of 18 and that I was going to be at another level of my life when I reached 18. I turn 18 in a couple of days and I haven't reached "my goals". Do you think I feel like I failed in life? In the beginning I did, not so drastically where I felt like I failed in life but I was feeling more "If-you-would've-worked-out-more-you-would-be-there-now". But see, the circumstances and the experience is different.

Being 18 doesn't give you that much more freedom than when you were 16, no matter what the 16 year old scenesters say. Being 18 is more of a drag to me, it sure has its good and better parts but for the most part the freedom side of it is not very broad and adults expect more from you since you're "18" but don't trust you that much because you're just "18". Ironical, much?

Back to my point, don't set yourself timed goals because if you don't reach them, you feel disappointed and angry at yourself for something that still can happen at a different time of your life. Maybe tomorrow, in 20 years, or as you're reading this. Set yourself goals for the future(keyword: FUTURE), and take whatever lemons life gives you. Like I tell myself: "Sooner or later is better than never."

P.S: I'm really excited about being in my mid 20s. That part of life seems the most fun to me followed by the 30s--but I don't want to rush through life.